I am in Love with Me!
Have you ever seen a mother reprimand her child? Time out seems to be one of the disciplines that works. The child may hit his brother or bite out of frustration, mom sees it and has the child sit in a chair for a short period of time. This is a wonderful way for the mother to set ground rules. It’s basically saying, this behavior is unacceptable, and I will not let anyone, especially someone that I love, treat another with disrespect. It is also teaching the child to love and respect himself and others.
So why is it that we as adults we continually accept behaviors that don’t allow others to respect us, or fall in love with ourselves?
I have seen others do their best to get respect but are completely ignored, as if they are 10 years old all over again. The holidays seem to be a trigger for most people. There seems to be an ongoing way in which our relatives treat us as if we were children.
Some do their best to change this behavior by yelling and screaming, hoping to be heard, while others disappear completely and use a list of excuses to avoid the holiday with family all together. Where is the middle ground?How can we love ourselves and others in a way that teaches others to respect us? The truth is, we can’t.
One of the best sayings I’ve ever heard is, it’s none of my business what you think of me. And just as important is learning how to love ourselves in a way that we don’t need approval from anyone else. When we come from love in every situation and we don’t accept unacceptable behavior, our lives will change. Some people think this is a tough road to hoe. How do we find that middle ground and find the right words to express our truth? Practice, Practice, Practice.
It is all an inside job. And when we are in the vibration of love, joy and peace, we are grounded in who we are and that is the light that shines outward. When we come to peace within ourselves, others’ behaviors are not tolerated or accepted, and we find the words, if we choose to do so, and the courage to express ourselves, even though we may feel scared. Love overrides everything. That doesn’t mean we don’t have negative emotions.
I also know that guilt plays a great part in this scenario. Think for a moment about the feeling of guilt. It doesn’t feel good. It gives me an uncomfortable feeling in the pit of my stomach.
When negative feelings arise, we are not in harmony with ourselves. Know that it takes time to change old patterns and behaviors. We develop them over many years, and it will take some time to release them.
So, what can you do to change the negative feelings and love yourself? One of the questions to ask yourself is, how can I love myself in this moment, what can I say to myself that will help me get back on track, and be grounded in who I truly am?
The most important thing is to remember to not beat yourself up in any situation, because you are doing the best you possibly can. Observe it and let it go, as if it’s in a bubble.
Meditating each day is a perfect way to start being grounded in who you are. It will help you follow the path of least resistance, one of love.
Start small. Five minutes a day is enough. You can gradually increase to 15 or 20 minutes. Sometimes it’s good to have a guided meditation to help you stay focused. I have a free meditation on my website that I would like to gift you. Meditation is all about clearing the mind so we can allow Source, God, or the Universe to come through. It’s a wonderful way to become aware of the chatter in our minds, to allow it and let it float by, and not attach to any of it.
If there’s anything I can do to help you live a more fulfilled life, one of peace and harmony, I’m here to help.
Come from Love and Appreciate your Light. Come from a Peaceful place in all your affairs.
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Hugs,
Kim
