5 Ways to Remove Toxic People in Your Life
Are there people in your life that get under your skin? You find yourself unset by their behavior and frustrated by their actions? Maybe it’s someone at work. A person that just doesn’t do their job and makes all kind of excuses, never accomplishes what you asked of them to do. Perhaps it’s’ a personal relationship that’s pulling you down and upsetting you, a person that just can’t hear your request or do what you ask. I personally had to deal with a person that was so petty. In all these cases, these relationships are not working and can feel toxic. I know toxic is a really strong word, but when you realize there is a disconnect, a discord that your feeling, it’s time to do something about it, but what?
So, what are your choices? If it’s an employee, you could fire them but is that really solving the problem. If you’re involved with dysfunctional people at work, be it a boss or supervisor, you could always leave the job, but again, is that going to get to the root of the issue. If it’s a spouse you can always leave, but is that going to answer the real problem?
Do you remember the song, “Fifty ways to leave your lover,” by Paul Simon. It suggests you leave and not look back, hit the road, jump on a bus, just get out. Is running away really addressing the problem?
I’m not saying you have to stay in every situation, only you truly know what’s right for you. Sometimes it’s necessary.
If you have been down this road before you may realize by now that there is a common denominator in each of these situations, it’s you. I’m not saying you shouldn’t leave a relationship, especially if there are mental, physical or psychological issues, that’s taking care of yourself. Each situation is entirely different, and you must do what works for you.
A new way of approaching toxic people is to check in with yourself to see why you are being triggered. What’s causing the discomfort?
All answers come from within. It’s really an inside job. The person that is triggering you and making you uncomfortable is really helping you with a lesson. Having awareness of your feeling and staying with them is a great way to heal and release them.
Awareness is the first of my 4-step process that is called ABOP. It’s a way to consciously heal toxic, judgmental or critical thoughts and implement loving and joyous ones. It’s the wake-up call that is going to help you understand the opposite of toxicity. It will help you attract abundance of joy, love and happiness that you already have within you. You just haven’t tapped into it yet.
Once you have the awareness of any situation you can choose to move out of negative toxic thoughts and look at anything differently. The situation may never change, but your heart can, which means you have. Once you have moved out of negativity or judgement you have shifted your perspective.
The Law of Attraction says what you think about, where you put your attention, is what you will receive more of. Stressful situations can trigger us, but once you have the awareness of your feelings, you have the choice to change them.
This week practice Awareness and see if you experience any changes in yourself or those around you. When someone says or does something that makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed, and you realize it, don’t judge them. Feel your feelings and then put your hand on your heart and think loving, joyous thoughts. That is the positive energy that you will bring back to you.
I’d love to hear about your challenges.
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Hugs,
Kim Marrone, CPC
